This is an interesting piece written by a lady to help other ladies learn and avoid the looming dangers.
There are certain things that push guys away from you and sometimes these turn-offs go both ways. Frankly some ladies find it hard to keep a man because of some things they do. Read details below:
Drama: This is definitely one of the top things that push men away. Women tend to be involved in more drama than men. It’s true that your boyfriend will be there to listen to you when you’re having issues, but being catty won’t highlight your best qualities. And being overly dramatic about some petty issue, such as why he didn’t call you first, will make him question the relationship. If you are a responsible lady or want to be one, try not to make a huge deal of something that can be easily fixed.
Possessiveness: Do you constantly check up on your boyfriend? If so, you might want to back off a little bit. When guys receive too many “Where are you?” texts, they tend to get annoyed. They don’t want to be in a relationship with their mom. You might think this is just you caring about him, but to him, it will feel like you don’t trust him, or worse, like you are trying to control him.
Playing dumb: Unfortunately, we ladies have all probably done this at some time or other. Truth is that playing dumb will lead you down the wrong path. He might eventually feel like you’re taking advantage of him or that you just aren’t capable of taking care of yourself, let alone you and the kid or kids when they start coming. Good guys believe a smart girl is much more worth keeping at home.
Clingy: A guy has got to have his own space! How much space a guy needs will vary. Some guys think that going out more then twice a month together is clingy, while others think that you never leaving his side is clingy. As a lady, make sure to observe your own man to figure out where he lies on the spectrum! When you give him what he wants, he will really appreciate your understanding and thoughtfulness – and he will try to make the time you do spend together that much more worthwhile.
Living in the past: It’s okay to share your past once you get comfortable with your new guy. Just don’t dwell on it. Not yours, not his, not “ours.” Don’t compare him to a fling that you had before, a sugar daddy or ex-boyfriend. And don’t compare yourself to anyone in his past – and definitely don’t dwell on a past disagreement that you two had. If you want him in your future, plan today with him.
Dishonesty: We hate being lied to. So why do we do it to a man we love? It doesn’t protect a relationship; in fact, it might destroy it. Communication is key in a relationship, so if you say things that you don’t mean, what’s the point? Try to express yourself and allow your man point out things that he doesn’t understand. Always make an attempt to talk things out. Believe me, it works wonders!
Remember that time you told him you loved that his shirt, even though really, you can’t stand it? Well, what are you going to do if he starts wearing it all the time to please you? That is it, you have all the work to do if you want to enjoy your man and have him spend his money you wholeheartedly.
Power struggle: I always cringe when I hear people joking about who wears the pants in a relationship. There’s really no need to do that. Learn to be humble and work well with your man. Your friends are loyal to their own men at home, no matter what they tell you. So don’t be obsessive over who has more power. Love is what you should ask for from your man, not his authority. You can!
There are certain things that push guys away from you and sometimes these turn-offs go both ways. Frankly some ladies find it hard to keep a man because of some things they do. Read details below:
Drama: This is definitely one of the top things that push men away. Women tend to be involved in more drama than men. It’s true that your boyfriend will be there to listen to you when you’re having issues, but being catty won’t highlight your best qualities. And being overly dramatic about some petty issue, such as why he didn’t call you first, will make him question the relationship. If you are a responsible lady or want to be one, try not to make a huge deal of something that can be easily fixed.
Possessiveness: Do you constantly check up on your boyfriend? If so, you might want to back off a little bit. When guys receive too many “Where are you?” texts, they tend to get annoyed. They don’t want to be in a relationship with their mom. You might think this is just you caring about him, but to him, it will feel like you don’t trust him, or worse, like you are trying to control him.
Playing dumb: Unfortunately, we ladies have all probably done this at some time or other. Truth is that playing dumb will lead you down the wrong path. He might eventually feel like you’re taking advantage of him or that you just aren’t capable of taking care of yourself, let alone you and the kid or kids when they start coming. Good guys believe a smart girl is much more worth keeping at home.
Clingy: A guy has got to have his own space! How much space a guy needs will vary. Some guys think that going out more then twice a month together is clingy, while others think that you never leaving his side is clingy. As a lady, make sure to observe your own man to figure out where he lies on the spectrum! When you give him what he wants, he will really appreciate your understanding and thoughtfulness – and he will try to make the time you do spend together that much more worthwhile.
Living in the past: It’s okay to share your past once you get comfortable with your new guy. Just don’t dwell on it. Not yours, not his, not “ours.” Don’t compare him to a fling that you had before, a sugar daddy or ex-boyfriend. And don’t compare yourself to anyone in his past – and definitely don’t dwell on a past disagreement that you two had. If you want him in your future, plan today with him.
Dishonesty: We hate being lied to. So why do we do it to a man we love? It doesn’t protect a relationship; in fact, it might destroy it. Communication is key in a relationship, so if you say things that you don’t mean, what’s the point? Try to express yourself and allow your man point out things that he doesn’t understand. Always make an attempt to talk things out. Believe me, it works wonders!
Remember that time you told him you loved that his shirt, even though really, you can’t stand it? Well, what are you going to do if he starts wearing it all the time to please you? That is it, you have all the work to do if you want to enjoy your man and have him spend his money you wholeheartedly.
Power struggle: I always cringe when I hear people joking about who wears the pants in a relationship. There’s really no need to do that. Learn to be humble and work well with your man. Your friends are loyal to their own men at home, no matter what they tell you. So don’t be obsessive over who has more power. Love is what you should ask for from your man, not his authority. You can!
Written by Bukky Sanni
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